Here's a video that describes some 3D structures, hybrids, and multiple bonding (10min):CrashCourse Chemistry: Orbitals, on YouTube
Here's a series of videos that describe hybrid orbitals: Covalent Bonds, by readysetorgo, on YouTube
Hybrid orbitals are combinations of atomic orbitals that fit well with the 3D structures of molecules (that point in the same directions as the bonds or lone pairs). Because chemical bonding is based on Coulomb forces between electrons and nuclei, we expect that bonding electrons should spend a lot of their time between the nuclei. This is what makes a chemical bond. But what orbitals are they in when they do this? Because of the observed shapes of molecules, it seems like valence electron pairs each occupy their own area, called a domain. But the positions of these areas that we learned in the previous section don't match the positions of the atomic orbitals we studied before. We can fix this by making combinations of the atomic orbitals that have new shapes, called hybrids.
We mostly use hybrid orbitals to describe the bonding in organic chemistry, for compounds composed mainly of C and H. Hybrids aren't so good for molecules like SF6.
We can build hybrid orbitals using wave interference. First, let's think about a molecule like BeF2 (in the gas phase, where it is a molecule and not an ionic solid). This molecule is predicted to be linear, so how do we put the 4 bonding electrons into 2 orbitals pointed the right directions? We can imagine taking the Be 2s orbital and 2pz orbital, and combining them in 2 ways, adding and subtracting. This gives us 2 new orbitals. (Any time you combine orbitals, you get as many out as you put in.) This is first shown using "1D" waves, where the x-axis is radius and the y-axis is Ψ. It's important to think about the phases of the orbitals during this combination, and think about constructive and destructive interference.
Once you are comfortable with the wave mixing pattern in the diagram above, look at the 2D version.
You can see that by combining an s orbital and a p orbital on the same atom, we get 2 new orbitals, which point opposite directions. These orbitals are good for making 2 bonds in a linear shape, like in the molecule BeF2. Each of the big black lobes with make a bond with an orbital or hybrid orbital on F. In the same way, we can mix 1 s orbital and 2 p orbitals to get sp2 hybrids, or 1 s and 3 p orbitals to get sp3 hybrids, shown below. We use sp2 hybrids for trigonal planar molecules like BH3 and sp3 orbitals for tetrahedral shapes like in CH4.
Although other hybrids are sometimes mentioned, the most important ones are sp, sp2 and sp3. (Hybrid orbitals using d orbitals are usually not a good or useful description of what's going on.) Just remember the general shape of each of these, and what geometry molecule they match.
